WordsThatMatter

Pretty interesting thing to talk about? I think yes. How many times in your life do you encounter yourself with this question? This simple question, Do i deserve this? Let’s think about the scenarios in which we ask ourselves this. On top of the list, we often end up with this question in our mind, when some one really very close to us hurts us, whether it be because that person lied, or maybe left you crying, or any random reason. Despite our irresistible efforts of making that person happy, sacrificing things, keeping that person above everyone, we are betrayed. And i am pretty sure you all can relate with this, because each one of you must have experience this at least once. You might have had breakups, people cheating on you or they just used you and threw you in the trash. It’s a difficult world, i know, and people living on this earth are deceitful, not everyone though, but most of them. Now when you ask yourself the cause of this pain inside your heart, you end up blaming yourself, and you start thinking why did you deserved this. You cry, lose hope, feel deprived of any emotion and enter the state of pessimism and you decide all by yourself that you don’t deserve anything in life. Well you are wrong here, want to know why? Well, we have a tendency of knowing the truth but not accepting it. Let’s walk through some examples, When you wake up in the morning and somebody hands a cup of tea, do you ponder about this thought that what have you done to deserve it? You don’t. Let’s take one more example, when your best friend consoles you because you felt so low in life, do you question about their help? Do you think, do i deserve this helpful behavior? Still not getting my point? Let’s generalize the whole thing then. We curse ourselves for every bad thing that people do to us, and we don’t see the tiny small things that your family, friends and the people who really love you end up doing only for you. Now tell me, do you deserve this? Yes you do. You deserve every good thing that comes your way and you deserve to get rid of all the bad things or people from your life. You deserve to stay happy and follow your dreams, and most importantly you deserve YOU. You have always deserved you. And this isn’t a thing to ask yourself about. This question shouldn’t even exists in our lives. If you are heart-broken, you deserve a better man, if you are jobless, you have a better place to be, if you are poor, time is just testing you, if you are alone, you would not always stay alone. All you need to remember is, You have you at all times. I am not saying start staying alone, i am simple asking to know the worth you have always up held within yourself. You have every right to fall down, because this is life, but you have an equal right to rise again. You have the right to fight, make wrong decisions, stuck up somewhere in life but among all these things you also have the right to deserve a life you like. Stop being vulnerable to situations, people and hardships and start praising every little possibility of life that shines your way and only then will you get to know, how well you deserved everything.

Such a weird topic isn’t it? Well the things i am going to tell would sound weird as well. So as i have a very annoying habit of asking questions, here’s one more for you, how often do you cry? Pretty weird again? Well think about it, when was the last time you cried? It could be due to any reason, you cried watching a movie, or maybe you fell down somewhere getting hurt, or you just felt like crying? Well if you happen to cry a lot, then you are definitely on the right track of your life. But if you are one of those people who don’t tend to cry, no matter what happens, because you are so strong emotionally, i have a bad news for you, you aren’t that strong you think you are. I know, i am no one here to judge you, maybe you are a happy person so you don’t led tears be a part of you, maybe you have seen so much that no matter how sad you feel from inside you just don’t happen to shed it, maybe you are numb. Whatever the reason maybe, i would suggest you to stop hurting yourself like this. I would ask you to cry and let your emotions out whenever you can’t sustain them in your heart. I am not asking you to cry in front of other people, i simply ask you to do it for you. Another question is, do you like to have coffee especially when it’s raining? Well if you do, you definitely are not a numb person, you know how to feel, but with years of pain with nobody around to share it with has somehow made you cold. I am no one to you i know, but i know someone who is just like you, and if i happen to spread this message to you, I’m sure it’ll reach that person too. It’s okay to be weak, it’s okay to feel things, it’s definitely okay to sit beside the window when it’s raining with one hand holding a cup of coffee and another wiping of the lovely and beautiful tears that run down your cheeks.

PS: The saying that the people who cry a lot are strong is true, and those who don’t have made themselves strong in a way we won’t understand.

Relativity of time, the trees appear to be moving when we are on a train but they are resting quite peacefully, aren’t they? It seems that the sun rises and sets everyday but even the sun is still, isn’t it? It’s all science my friends, the basic law of relativity. But is this law applicable in our real lives as well? If you ask me, yes. Wanna know how? Let me ask a simple question then, how many people are there in the world? 7.7 billion. That’s a very big number isn’t it? Well another question is, how many people do you know out of those? Let’s say hypothetically, you know a thousand. Do you know what they are doing right now? No, i guess you don’t. As soon as they call you, or visit you, then you get to know what they are up to. It’s easy to understand isn’t it? Your life with respect to me is different, and my life for you. My life can only become a part of yours if we share the same time, space and connection. We all have some expectations from life, we want things to happen in a certain way, and when it doesn’t we feel hopeless, angry and grumbler. We compare ourselves with people who are successful, happy and blessed, which makes the situation even worse. Well, do we ever compare ourselves with people who don’t have everything? I know you probably would think, its such an ideal thought, why should we waste thinking about something like that and all. Just take out one minute of your life and think about this relativity phenomenon. Your life according to you is not what you imagined to be, but for a person who doesn’t have a house, or a family, your life is his Dream yet to be true. Some people see you riding in your bike and think i wish i was him. On the other hand, you see someone driving a Ferrari and you wonder when would you achieve that dream. At the same time the person driving a Ferrari might be thinking if he could just spend a nice happy time with his family. As i said before it’s relativity of life, it all depends on the path where you stand and perceive things, you might not be the richest or the coolest or the brightest person on this earth but among the 7.7 billion population, your life or you might be someone’s DREAM, yet to come true.

Have you ever said these words to anyone? Unknowingly spoken some words to someone that you didn’t mean? I don’t know about you, but i often end up apologizing with these exact same words and i wondered about the actual reason behind the harshness which is not a part of my personality. Then i realized one very simple thing, we tend to loose our senses when we are upset, worried or exhausted. And all those mugged up emotions that we don’t ourselves understand, we tend to throw it as  a lightening on others. Especially on the ones we love the most. At that point of time we do know that what we are speaking could not be right in any way, but it’s too hard to control, isn’t it? What are we supposed to do then? Take deep breaths five times, close our eyes and relax? By the time we are done with it don’t you think the damage has already been done? If it was so easy to just be calm when we actually need to, we all would have been saints. Well, I have a question for you, have you seen a person really very calm and sound? Who doesn’t know anything about anger, a perfectly restful individual with no complains? There might be a few people like those, people who have experienced everything to keep themselves serene at all times. But for people like me or you, handling these emotions doesn’t really work. Now the question is not how to avoid this situation, the question is how to handle ourselves and the person we ended up hurting. Because words have an unseen power of grilling up the heart to its utmost core. The person who is harsh not only hurts the other person but himself/herself as well, and as it keeps on rising, we ought to loose ourselves bit by bit, slowly and slowly we turn into a person we never wanted to be. My question is to all those people who got hurt, the person you love didn’t meant it, if that individual is apologizing its hard for them too, so do you want to carve those words on a stone forever or do you want to keep in mind that the person who loves you will always love you irrespective of the words he/she told you in their cold behavior? If you fight today, forget it and start your next day with all the love you can spare for that person. Eventually you will see, the harshness and rudeness in times of despair, sadness, tensions and exhaustiveness would be long gone and these lines “I’m sorry for what i said and how i said it” would vanish before you can even imagine. 

Have you ever wondered how things change in life? Does it change in a day, a month, a year or a lifetime? Things change consecutively and constantly with every second that passes by, for you see the only way to measure what really happens is through one very important thing, TIME. Yes time, though abstract, has an amazing power of changing everything, hence the quote” Live in the present, forget the past and don’t think about the future.” As if it was so easy to do that. Let’s say just for argumentative sake, it is easy to live like that, would anyone tell me how? Are you so sure about it that you can stake your life on it? Can you stake my life on it? Probably you must be wondering what am i even trying to say, well it’s simple, what i am trying to say is, it’s impossible to forget your past and not to think about your future. Just give it a thought and see for yourself, when you make a decision regarding something, don’t you think about the things you have done before? Do you not plan your day according to a final motive you want to achieve? I’m sure you do, we all do that. It is still possible to live in the present but not thinking about the consequences of future and regrets of the past, is it really an easy thing to follow? You might tell me i am too depressing to think like that and that i need to enjoy little things in life. Honestly i do that, i enjoy every moment but i also think about the  bad things that happened to me in the past, about people who mattered to me, about people who betrayed me, people who might not wanna hear my name now, and people who stayed in my life. For you see whoever invented this quote of just living in the present forgot one simple thing” Each one of us is haunted by the ghosts of our future, past”. Even when you might be the most optimistic of all.

Fun fact: The one who inspires everyone, motivates everyone and helps everyone is the first to become the victim of the past, and the prisoner of the future.

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Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton